Working as a Domina or Bizarrlady – Basic elements
“Dominance cannot be learned, rather, it is intrinsic.“ This basic assumption must be laid to rest. Anyone can learn domination. The work spectrum of a professional domina is so extensive, however, that training in this area may seem daunting and complicated.
In the past this knowledge was taught to the apprentice by the experienced domina little by little. For areas in which the mentoring domina lacked proficiency, the student had to arduously aquire the experience themselves through trial and error with a client. This is rarely the case anymore.
We often have inquiries as to opportunities for training or practice in domination; therefore we would like to meet this demand with our training concepts.
The basic workshop provides the necessary structure for the professional work as a Domina oder Bizarrlady. Depending on personality and previous experience, entry as either novice or apprentice domina is possible. A solid foundation will be laid for further independent training, and the common myths regarding the work of a domina will be replaced by realistic assesments. Generally the theory of “learning by doing” is not opposed, as long as all participants proceed with empathy and self reflection. We help you to obtain this mindfulness and a healthy self-assessment, as well as recognising the needs and wishes of the client.
It’s all about crafting one’s skills in theory and practice. Of course, one cannot strive for perfect training in just three days; however we can provide a professional basic understanding on an anatomical, technical, psycho-social and legal basis.
An important piece at the end of the workshop is sussing out your first personal profile as a domina. What skills can you offer? What is your dominant personality like?
The diversity of the industry is also apparent in the 3 lecturers; they all have very different skillsets and bring exactly this variety to the workshop. The lecturers’ teachings come directly from personal practical experience. They want to give you the courage to try new things, and guide you in your first independent steps.
What is BDSM?
Varieties of Dominas
Various fields of practice: Domina, Bizarrlady, Passive, Slave, Switch, Active/Passive playmate, Maid, Fetish lady
Job profile (Review of personal results d. Information evening) (what does the ‘d.’ mean?)
Technical vocabulary as it pertains to BDSM
S&M as a service:
Client desires, imagination and reality
Keeping a professional distance
How do I design a session?
Rollplaying: (examples and practice)
Maskplay und breath control
Doctorplay –> Notice: no clinical training
Interrogation games and prison scenarios
Immobilization : ‘To be at her mercy’
Erotica and S&M? Contrasts and comparisons.
What should a domina know? Basic knowledge
Saturday, 11:00 – 19:00
Health and Safety:
Risks and Dangers, Liability
Safe session preparation
Restraints, part 1
Knotwork and cabling, standard knotwork, bondage
Conflicting discussion (pros & cons?)
Hand spanking, floggers, flaggelation and caning with play instructions
CBT (Cock and ball torture)
Anal games, fisting
Loss of control, unusual games, overstepping boundaries
S&M as a service:
Preliminary meeting with practical exercise
Sensual session preparation
The golden ticket : cum techniques with guaranteed success
Sussing out the first personal aptitudes
What’s my client like? First impressions (I think maybe this is off) Punktesammlung?
Sunday, 11:00 – 17:00 Uhr
S&M as a service:
Fetishes. What sorts are there? What’s behind them?
Feminisation and cross-dressing
Foot and stocking woship
Dirty Games und Dirty Talk
Dealing with difficult clients (dead fish)
Restraints, part 2
Creative bondage on the fly
Toys : fun demonstrations and testing
Common advertising opportunities for your specialties
Client profiles und advertising language
Ascertaining personal curiosity
Realistic brand evaluation
• Realistic representation of service perspectives
• What is the impact of investment?
• Timesinks: Marketing, Mails, Phone,…
• Insurance and taxes, how to make heads or tails of it.
• Where and how can one work as a domina in Berlin?
Classic dominance – working as a Domina since 2007, Germany wide with copious experience in various studios, as an escort as well as online. Trained advertising photographer, studied social work, worked for many years in integrative child and youth services. Experienced in both youth and adult further education.
Performance artist and domina in Berlin, Hof Franken and Toronto. She is interested in communication sex parameters, that break conventional molds, in humour in sessions and how we can become closer to our own inner monsters while simultaneously remaining professional. In her diverse workshops she finds it important to make mistakes and ask stupid questions, thereby making communal learning possible.
Caritia is a British born , Berlin based dominant of Afro-Caribbean decent. Artist, feminist, sadist and activist, with 18+ years experience within bdsm. Caritia’s focus is on ritual, sensation/pain, shibari and delving into shadow aspects. With the belief that exploring all aspects of oneself, leads to more fun, laughter and creativity in play as well as life.