BDSM Beyond Binary – Kinky Identities
Between Play, Power and Perception
In this workshop, we will explore our individual kinky identities: whether submissive, dominant, bratty, switchy or still undefined – it’s about rediscovering yourself in the game of power, presence and touch.
This workshop is a first step on the path to your own (kinky) identity. You don’t have to know “what you are”. Instead, you can be curious, try things out, feel and find out what feels right for you – in your own body, in contact with others and in conscious play.
Contents of the workshop:
- Body exercises for self-awareness
We start with exercises to arrive in the body, explore tension and relaxation and connect with our boundaries and needs. - Closeness & distance
What happens when someone wants to submit to your commands? What is it like to follow instructions yourself? Do you feel resistance? What role does this play in your kinky dynamic? In guided partner exercises, we explore playing with space, tension and contact - Voice, silence & body language
How does your presence change when you speak, remain silent or simply breathe?
How does it feel to be loud – or just to show presence with your body? We experiment with vocal and physical forms of expression to explore and consciously take on our roles. - Playfully discover roles
In a safe, attentive setting, you will have the opportunity to try out different position (Dom, Sub, Brat, Switch …) – without the pressure of having to do something “right”. It’s not about performance, but about authentic sensing and playful curiosity. - Consent & communication
We practise communicating clearly what we want – and what we don’t want. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent helps us to differentiate between giving, taking, serving and receiving. This creates a field in which play with power and devotion can take place in a pleasurable, safe and consensual way.
For all queer people who are curious about their kinky sides – whether at the beginning of their journey or with first experience You don’t need a fixed play partner – openness, a yes to self-exploration and willingness for mindful encounters are enough.
Darius Rex
he.his/they.them
I am transmasc, Dominatrix at BDSM Studio Lux, in sexological bodywork
certification and a board member of trans*sexworks.
As a dominatrix and bodyworker, my work consists of exploring and understanding human bodies from a political and embodied perspective. In my work, I constantly challenge established norms around identity, gender, sexuality and social taboos. I see vulnerability and insecurities in play as a resource. Both are a powerful source that contributes to personal, sensual and pleasurable growth.
As an activist*, community-based work, solidarity politics and networking are the main topics of my political work. My goal is to open up and create more spaces for queer, kinky and sex-positive people. Especially with the rise of right-wing forces in Germany and Europe, we need safe spaces for our right to self-determination, to live out our sexuality(ies) and to develop our identity(ies).
Who can participate?
All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.
Accessibility
People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.
In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.
Corona
Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.
Costs
Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.
The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.
- Covid Test
- Sprache German/English
