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BDSM Beyond Binary – Neo Masculinity

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The Art of Sensual Expression

A sensual journey through waistline work, lap/chair dance, strip-inspired flow and spiritual embodiment.

Directly informed by my Afro-Carribean background and long experience as a show-boy, we explore how to move with presence, confidence, and joy — in our own ways, in our own bodies.

A more direct physicality, sometimes minimalist, yet always imbued with sensuality—what I now call my “Neo-masculinity.”

I will guide you with exercises to unlock specific body parts (hips, spine), explore stage presence, various movement tools with and without the chair, and concrete tips to create and embody a character.

Event will be held in English.

Jamal Phoenix
(he/him)

is an Afro-Créole transmasculine performer, dancer, pornstar and sex-educator. With his concept “Neo/High-Masculinity,” he amplifies trans-fag visibility through performance, film, and workshops. Blending dance, fetish, education and pro-Sub practice, his work dissolves boundaries between sexuality, performing arts and political representation.

jamalphoenixxx@gmail.com

Who can participate?

This event is organised by and for kinky queers. If you’re not sure whether this is for you, please get in touch.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

Prices are set by the respective collectives and individuals, with 80% of the proceeds going towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, on social media and in print media, and 10% goes to the organiser.

BDSM Beyond Binary – Erotic Classroom – Writing Lesson

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A Writing Lesson” is an exploration of various erotic fantasies around education. From rewriting traumatic school experiences to exploring the power dynamic between a teacher and a student or the rituals of education, the classroom can be a powerful playground for BDSM.
Headmistress Vita and her Head Girl Astrid will guide you through a brief lesson in history about the classroom in BDSM media, and then through a series of writing exercises that reflect on the classroom as an institution of power. The workshop toes the border between conventional workshop and play scene. It is conceived as a classroom setting in which participants have the opportunity to be quiet students or, if they wish, to play along and experience some of the emotions of the classroom. You may write quietly, or you may read out loud and be heckled or praised…

Headmistress Vita
(she/they)

is a professional Dominatrix and writer-researcher in the fields of gender and sexuality, based in the Netherlands and Berlin.

@vitavolition

Schoolgirl Astrid
(she/her)

is a writer-researcher on history, an interdisciplinary artist, a workshop facilitator, and an erotic content creator, with a PhD in literature that she completed under her Headmistress’s guidance.
@leni_lovelace

Who can participate?

This event is organised by and for kinky queers. If you’re not sure whether this is for you, please get in touch.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

Prices are set by the respective collectives and individuals, with 80% of the proceeds going towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, on social media and in print media, and 10% goes to the organiser.

BDSM Beyond Binary -Hot Ears

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Kumi and Bendix will make your ears hot with poetry that will have you swoon and laugh, that will hold you, touch you, and let you fly, poetry that will make you happy to be queer, to be you, to be here.

Immerse yourself in the poetic worlds of two very different queer sex(y) artists at LUX.

Poetry cums in German and English.

There will be an art table with postcards, prints and zines by Bendix and crochet animals by Kumi, so come in shopping mood!

Kumi More - Germanys fattest whore

Kumi More
(no pronouns)

writes poetry and performs on themes of Blackness, disability, queerness, fatness, desire and sex(uality). Joy and well-being are the goal of Kumi’s work, in art but also as probably Germany’s fattest whore.

@kuminikation
@kuminikation.bsky.social

Bendix Mignon
(he/they/none)

is a white trans*queer*crip sex worker and artist from Hamburg. Bendix’s work grows around queerness and disability in search of abstraction between the words and lines. Sometimes with a wink, sometimes quietly sexy, sometimes in your face. But always with love.
@callmbendix
@callmebendix.bsky.social
callmebendix.com

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

abgesagt – BDSM Beyond Binary – Holy F//CK

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✞ A Queer & Trans* Play Party ✞ Easter Fet//sh Weekend | Berlin | Saturday, April 4 at B//SM Studio LUX | 18:00-01:00

It’s that time of year again!

On the holiest of leather weekends, we gather to revel in and with each other. HOLY F//CK is a queer & trans-only play party in which desire is sacred, pleasure is ritual, pain is pious, and sin redefined on our own terms.

A night for those who understand that ecstasy is power & that subverting all the rules is its own kinda devotion. Whether you come to kneel, confess, commune, or transgress, our altar is abundant for those who dare worship at the temple of all things impudent, irreverent, & brazen.

Blessed be the deviant, defiant, & damned!

HOLY F//CK is for queer, TIN* & friends. Dress code: Ritualistic, sacrilege, occultisms. Perverse priests, unholy nuns, genderf//cked saints, fallen angels, leather-clad altar bois, ruinous dieties. You choose 😉

**No street clothes!**

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

For our immuno-compromised baddies, we ask that everyone please come COVID tested negative to the event. If you cannot test or do not have access to a COVID test, there will be a few tests provided at the door & masks.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

Please contact Mercy at mercystj@proton.me if you cannot afford a ticket!

BDSM Beyond Binary – The hottest play

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The hottest play you could think of and how to get there

Close your eyes for a moment and imagine your hottest, most fulfilling play experience — the one that makes your body hum with anticipation.
What would it feel like to get it?

This workshop is about connecting with own desires. To listen to them. To trust that what turns you on — emotionally, physically, sexually — matters.

And finding a way to ask for it. And then possibly getting it, exactly that, no more, no less.

We’ll explore the questions:
Who is doing? For who?

and why those questions open the doorway to deeper, more connected experiences.

Through guided practices, gentle embodiment work, and partnered or triad exercises, we’ll play with

• Sensing what you truly want (not what you think you should want).
• Feeling where your yes, no, and maybe live in your body.
• Discovering the sweet spot between wanting and willing.

You decide any time, how you want to participate, therefor we will take it slow.

Expect laughter, tenderness, curiosity, and a touch of mischief as we untangle old patterns and celebrate the full-bodied yeses and the empowered nos that set the tone for a juicy, connected conference.

And expect a feeling of deep well-being when you get EXACTLY what you asked for, without guilt or shame.

Puma
(he/they)

I´ve been working in the field of consent for many years. I am thrilled to see what happens with people when they fell safe enough to deep into own desires and finding a way to ask for their wants and probaply (this is not always given) getting them fulfilled. My superpower is laughter and humour and make people feel ease, when they face a challenge.

@magictouch_radicalconsent
magictouch-radicalconsent.com

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

BDSM Beyond Binary – Provide & Receive

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An interactive role play. For queers, inspired by Emilian’s experiences of str1pclub dynamics

The experience of providing intimate services and receiving them is an opportunity to explore what we’re willing to give, and what we want. This workshop is an intimate consent roleplay inspired by s*x work dynamics and Emilian’s experience as a s*x worker.

Emilian will guide you through this process, while offering knowledge and advice on playing with these concepts in a way that is respectful of sex worker’s experiences and struggles. This workshop is not an initiation to s*x work nor a glamorization of the work. It invites you to an experience based on the appreciation of s*x workers’ knowledge, not on appropriation. This is why education on the topic is so important.

Emilian will provide tips about consent, and a lap dance demonstration. In this fun and intimate roleplay, you will have the experience of approaching others to offer them the services that you’re willing to provide, and being paid – not in actual money – but in compliments. You will also have the experience of having someone you don’t know coming to you to offer services, and choosing what you want to experience. Lap dances are on the menu, but also services like listening to someone, giving them a hug, or even a spank. No prior knowledge is required. You can participate even if you don’t feel like giving or receiving a lapdance. Come as you are, with the outfit and gender expression that make you feel good on that day!

Emilian

is a non-binary s*x worker, workshop facilitator, performer and writer. They facilitate regular Consent workshops and a peer support group for sex workers at Hydra Cafe. They strive to fight the stigma sex workers face through performances, story-telling, poetry, and lectures. As part of the Anti-Stigma Hydra’s campaign, they co-wrote the free zine “So You’re Dating A Sex Worker?”. They are part of Slut Riot, a group of Berlin-based sex workers who create performance art and shows. Slut Riot’s mission is to give a space to sex workers to take control over their own narratives and to find creative outlets to express their voices.

@emilianperforms
@slvtriot
emilianwalter.contact@gmail.com
slutriotberlin.com

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

BDSM Beyond Binary – Introduction to medical and clinical play

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This 2.5-hour workshop offers a broad introduction to the wide range of possibilities within clinic and medical play. The focus is on understanding selected concepts, practices, tools, and dynamics rather than specializing in a single technique.
Depending on the interests and consent of the group, individual topics may be explored in greater detail.

Content:
Arrival & Introduction
Welcome, introduction, outline of the workshop structure and goals.
Consent, communication, limits, and safewords as the foundation for medical play.
Scope of Medical Play
What falls under clinic and medical play?
Overview of possible practices, aesthetics, power dynamics, and roles.
Discussion of interests, experience levels, and expectations within the group.
Anatomy, Hygiene & Risk Awareness
General anatomical principles relevant to medical play.
Hygiene standards, preparation, and basic risk management applicable across practices.
Materials & Tools
Overview of common medical and clinical equipment used in play.
Handling, hygiene, and considerations for different types of tools.
Flexible Practical & Discussion Segments
Presentation and demonstration of selected practices as examples.
Space for questions, discussion, and — if desired by group consensus — deeper exploration of specific topics.
Wrap-Up & Aftercare
Closing the workshop, de-roling, and aftercare principles.
Summary, questions, and feedback.
The ticket includes 5,-€ cost for material!

Jamie aka Transboy_Dom
(they/them, he/him)

is a queer transmasculine BDSM dominus, BDSM performer and activist. He combines dominace, creativity, dedication and expertise with a presence that transcends the boundaries of gender norms.

transboy_dom@gmx.de
@transboy_dom_jamie
Jamie Transboy_Dom – BDSM Studio LUX Berlin

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

BDSM Beyond Binary – Erotic Wrestling

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In this erotic wrestling workshop you will learn how to effectively pin and control a client/ partner, while on the ground.
We will go over some positions famous in wrestling dom*me work, like the grapevine, scissor choke or rear naked choke. Tapping into Tonja’s extensive Brazilian Jiu Jitsu practice, we will additionally go over other control techniques, while focusing on how to safely move one’s own body and how to avoid injury when working / during playfights.

Tonja
(they/them)

is a professional Jiu-Jitsu athlete and retired wrestling dom*me. They have extensive training in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu and wrestling, as well as Muay Thai and effective self-defense. Their dom*me work focuses on safely applying chokes and pins and how to effectively control another body, while not risking injury for oneself or the training partner/ or client.

@idrawpeoplenaked
maryoh@posteo.de

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

BDSM Beyond Binary – High Concept Roleplay

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“High Concept Roleplay,” meaning erotic roleplay that incorporates complex characters and backdrops, will harness your natural creativity to bring your fantasies to life.

Those wild dreams that you thought you could never fulfill can be yours with the power of roleplaying! Byron and Lorraine break down the five pillars of roleplaying — motivation, plot arc, signifiers, ambience, and “wow factor” — so that participants can move beyond the awkwardness of improv into living their erotic dreams. Participants will be guided through exercises and receive a worksheet at the end to help them in their future play.

Please note:
Roleplay can be a space to explore concepts that are otherwise unsafe to explore in real life. These topics may be upsetting or triggering for some. Please be mindful of this when deciding to take part in this workshop.

Byron
(he/him)

is a German-American with lived transsexual transition experience and identifies as gender nonconforming. A self-proclaimed “sex nerd,” Byron delights in exploring intimacy and creativity through erotic roleplay. With years of experience in roleplay hobbies like Dungeons & Dragons and medieval LARP (Live Action Roleplay), he brings a unique and playful perspective to the art of kinky roleplay.

https://capricornworkshops.carrd.co/

Lorraine
(she/her)

escaped Canada to Germany in 2017. She has recently completed her PhD in Berlin, and is a founding member of the Berlin Sex Museum, whose first pop-up exhibition, “Berlin Sex Spaces,” was funded by the Berlin Senatsverwaltung für Kultur und Gesellschaftlichen Zusammenhalt in 2025. She writes narrative poetry, organizes the book club Sapphic Reads Berlin with her best friend Helen, and gives workshops on various topics as Capricorn Workshops.

https://capricornworkshops.carrd.co/

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

BDSM Beyond Binary – Slap me Soft

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Hitting and being hit or Impact play, isn’t a conventional context to look for softness and gentleness. Yet, this is precisely what we shall do. We will try to approach this Kuan and insist on staying in this Paradox: How could hitting someone, submitting myself to the blows of another – could become a gentle act of care?

We will be building towards a classic (face-slapping), through many approximations, intermediate steps and pauses. The approach proposed is slow, somatic and very much inspired by the Feldenkrais method.

Another arc of the workshop, meant to support the quality of care and softness, is engaging with others through physically holding/being held by them. Asking for someone to be big, so that I could be small, and inviting this big one to slap me, to take care of me, through hitting

Noam Raz
(He/Him)

is a workshop facilitator, Emotional-Somatic practioner (Feldenkrais) and Family Constellation guide. His work is driven by sensitivity and is an attempt to create experiential spaces for people to develop autonomy and trust in their own body and internal processes. Throughout the years, he trained in a variety of physical and embodiment practices which inform and enrich his work: Dance, Taiji, Somatics, Kink, Voicework and Meditation. Coming originally from the realm of Philosophy (Wittgenstein!) and Linguistics, attention to language and its workings is somehow always in the background.

noamra.com

@noam.raz.98

noamraz05@gmail.com

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.