Are you a Berlin kinkster still only using English for play? Do you have no idea how to flirt in German, name genitals, handle non-binary grammar, or negotiate a BDSM scene with a local? Bist du ein*e deutsche*r Muttersprachler*in, d* alles über kinky Sex aus dem englischen Internet gelernt hat? Hast du Schwierigkeiten, deine Wünsche und Interessen in einer BDSM-Verhandlung auf Deutsch auszudrücken? Then this workshop is for you! With our experts, we dive deep into all the juicy questions you will never find an answer to on Duolingo or at your regular German course at the Goethe-Institut.

THEMES WE ARE COVERING:

* Sexual vocabulary

How to name genitals in German? What vibes do the different synonyms give off? Are they cutesy, neutral, offensive? Which ones should be used depending on the context and your intention? What are the common expressions for having sex and what are the idioms that might be confusing for a foreigner? How do we talk respectfully about the bodies of our trans*, inter* and non-binary (play) partners?

* Gender-inclusive speech

German is a heavily gendered language, with not just pronouns but a number of other grammatical elements that can be tricky to handle, especially if you want to speak correctly and respectfully with or about someone who identifies as non-binary. We go through the basics and offer easy-to-use solutions for situations like that.

* Consent and pre-negotiation

Ensuring clear, informed and enthusiastic consent before any kind of sex (kinky or not) is crucial – and language should not get in the way of that! So we will go through the most important concepts and expressions that you need to know to talk about your desires, boundaries, and everything that gets your juices flowing!

* Special words and expressions in BDSM

A lot of BDSM practices, like fisting, bondage or impact play come with a wide range of specialised vocabulary that might be not easy to convert into German. How do you distinguish between a flogger and a whip, stingy and thuddy pain for example? And most importantly what is THIS toy called?!?

Who is this workshop for?

All queer people who want to improve their language skills in the field of sex and kink when using German as the main language of communication. You should be able to express yourself in German sufficiently in everyday life. The workshop will be held in a mix of German and English, and you can always ask if you need translation.

Alex M Gastel
(they/them, dey/denen)

I am a non-binary trans linguist, writer and diversity trainer. Language is an empowerment tool for me which helps me to express myself, my identity, my wishes and desires as well as respectfully ask my partners about their preferences. Consent in all its forms, polyamory and pansexuality are central to my learning, writing and teaching about sex. German is my first language but I love mixing German and English in creative ways, if only to annoy the conservatives.

Queerin G. Katter
(er/ he/ him)

Ich bin ein trans* Mann, Vollblut-Kinkster und Sexualpädagoge. Einen Kink für Sprachen hab ich auch, besonders die verschiedenen Arten, wie in einzelnen Sprachen das Patriachat und die Cis-Heteronormativität bekämpft werden, wie Queerness sichtbar gemacht wird, fasziniert mich. Ich rede gerne über Sex und Kink und beim Sex und Kink! Dabei musste ich schon manchmal feststellen, dass auch anderen Erstsprachler:innen auf Deutsch manchmal die Worte fehlen. Und im Deutschkurs werden ja nicht mal Neopronomen gelehrt! Ich bin in der kinky Community ziemlich aktiv, mehr in FLINTA-Räumen, aber auch immer mal in schwulen oder gemischten, Mitglied im Quälgeist und auch im Proteus Leder Club. Bei einem Workshop kam die Idee zu diesem Format auch: Dirty Talk auf Deutsch, für alle, die da ein bisschen Nachhilfe brauchen ;).

Mátyás Dunajcsik
(he/him/er)

I am a cis gay multilingual poet, linguist, literary translator and BDSM practitioner. Since my move to Germany 7 years ago, I have been writing poetry and had kink sessions both in English and German. Sometimes the things I learn through kink also find their way to my poetry too. With several decades of experience in navigating between languages both in writing and in real life, I have first-hand experience in how the language you use to connect with another person can deeply influence intimacy, understanding and trust. As a member of the German chapter of the Proteus Leather Club, I am also actively working on the integration of trans and non-binary folks into the gay leather and fetish scene in Berlin and wider Germany.

Für wen

Diese Veranstaltung ist von und für kinky Queers. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Zugänglichkeit

Menschen haben unterschiedliche Bedürfnisse und Wünsche an Veranstaltungen und Räume. Bitte teil uns unter queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de mit was Du brauchst um an einer Veranstaltung teilzunehmen.

Im BDSM Studio Lux Kurszentrum gibt es einen Aufzug, der durch 4 Stufen im Erdgeschoss und im 3. Stock erreichbar ist. Eine Rampe gibt es leider keine.

Kosten

Während der gesamten queeren Veranstaltungsreihe stehen eine Politik der Zugänglichkeit, Transparenz und Umverteilung im Fokus.

Die Preise werden von den jeweiligen Kollektiven und Einzelpersonen kalkuliert und gehen zu 80 % in ihre Arbeit. Weitere 10% werden für die Werbung in Zeitschriften, Social Media und Printmedien verwendet und 10% entfallen für die organisierende Person.

Folsom Fest has been too cis for too long! So mark your calendars, babes, because the trans & queer k!nksters of Berlin are serving you a second edition of queer & trans Folsom Fest at B//SM Studio Lux, with qt’s at the front & center! The new & improved B//SM Beyond Binary team are here to offer you an entire day of juicy workshops & play space for your most perverted & primal self to explore — you will not wanna miss!

Whether you’re an experienced deviant, want to brush up on your skills, or just beginning to delve into the world of k!nk & B//DM, the Queer & Trans Folsom Fest will be an k!nky oasis for you to come, learn, break bread, and play amongst community.

Come for the k!nk, stay for the cumaraderie. And let’s honor the queer & trans* leather babes who have come before us in the best down & dirty way possible!

Practical Introduction to Needle Play

by Miss Lizz 

Curious about needle play but not sure where to start? Maybe you’ve admired decorative needle scenes, wondered how they are done safely, or simply want to learn more about this unique form of BDSM. This workshop is the perfect introduction.

Needle play has been one of Miss Lizz’s passions for many years. Through extensive practice, continued learning, and teaching within the kink community, needles have become one of their favourite forms of play. Miss Lizz especially enjoys combining technical precision with creativity, whether that means creating decorative designs or using needles as part of a larger BDSM scene.

Fabricando Impacto Build Your Own Upcycled Flogger (en Español)

by Vortex

¿Qué sucede cuando transformamos un material descartado en una herramienta de placer, juego e intención? En este taller construiremos un flogger desde cero utilizando cámaras de bicicleta recicladas.

Vortex (he-him) is a trans non-binary activist, sex worker, and professional dominatrix from Argentina, currently based in Berlin. He has been involved in BDSM for over ten years and has been part of queer communities since his teenage years. Along the way, he has organized events, facilitated workshops, performed, and continued learning about BDSM, kink, and fetish practices through both study and lived experience. His work is guided by curiosity, mutual learning, and a belief in the importance of building community and sharing knowledge.

Freak(,) Like Me 

by Kumi More 

In this workshop we’ll write and -if you want- share short pieces around the themes of kink, kinky desire and BDSM. We want to write for the fun of it and share a good-natured, humorous space to do this in. Join me for some tongue-in-cheek prompts and hot writing invitations.

Kumi More (no pronouns) writes poetry, facilitates, learns and performs on themes of Blackness, dis_ability, queerness, fatness, desire and sex(uality). Joy and well-being are the goal of Kumi’s work, in art but also as probably Germany’s fattest whore.

The Anal Ga(y)ze 

by Raoni 

the ANAL GA(Y)ZE workshop lures you into the somatic experience of the anus as the third eye, the monstrous all-seeing eye. decentering the front ga(y)ze of the eyes, it takes us into an exploration of „seeing from the anus“ by „seeing from the anus“ the workshop playfully suggests an alternative seeing of the world, one that resists the suppressive binds of normative culture.

Raoni/Muzho Saleh is an artist / choreographer based in Amsterdam. Through his artistic practice he aims to create deep embodied and immersive experiences that aim to pull both performer and the audience into a transformative experience. The dance, the installation, the textile, the experimental noise performance become mediums to bring forth textural excitement between maker and public. Teaching somatic workshops is a way for him to create playful study moments as a way to expand the individual’s and the collective’s embodied capacities.

Objects of Desire 

by Silicone Pussy

Erotic filmmaking is not just for business, babes. It’s pleasure, self expression, and a way to delve into the lush refuge of the senses by tending to our most sumptuous & sensory pleasures. In this workshop, we celebrate soft pleasures and explore erotic filmmaking with objects of desire.

Silicone Pussy (he/it) is a pr0stitute, p0rn maker and visual artist based in Berlin. A trans boy from Southwest Asia — guardian of restless souls and craving bodies, keeper of soft pleasures.

PISS PLAY 

by Twink Daddy 

Piss play is one of the most diverse and popular kinks, but it is underrepresented in a BDSM community education. The workshop will cover safety, power dynamics, different toys/devices/materials that can be used, negotiating play & different styles, themes, directions & practices.

Twink Daddy (aka Leo) is a retired pro-Dom & activist

MERCY ST. J

Mercy St. J is a full service sex worker, visual artist, filmmaker, writer, and photographer and based in Amsterdam and Berlin. Their work connects sex work, spirituality, and community building from a queer and trans perspective, approaching whoring as both creative and political practice.   

HOUSE RULES

Please come self-tested negative for Covid 19. A few spare tests will be available at the door. Everyone must test before entering the venue.

We value consent, learning together, personal autonomy, sex & kink positivity, and curiosity– meaning, we take care & listen to others when they say no, understand we need each other to grow, do not shame others for their desires, and engage an environment where people can explore their kinks creatively.

We do not tolerate racism, xenophobia, transphobia, cis/sexism, whorephobia, classism, ableism, or colorism in this space. However, we are aware these “-isms” & “-phobias” may arise and will tend to them with care, repair, and acknowledgement when they do. Guests who perpetuate will be asked to change their behavior once, but if they continue to perpetuate any of the above, they will be asked to leave.

This is a space that centers the needs, desires, wants, pleasures, & experiences of queer, trans*, intersex, non-binary, gender-diverse folks.

If you feel you have been hurt or harmed in this space, you can approach one of the organizers/space holders so we can engage in a process of acknowledgement, apology, mediation or repair as needed and desired.

We encourage all participants to tend to their needs as they come up–you will not be judged for sitting out, stepping away, seeking fresh air, taking pause, drinking water, or eating a snack as you need throughout the evening. If you need help taking care, please approach one of the organizers/space-holders!

Who can participate?

This is a party is for translate* & queer kinksters + friends. This is a space that centers the desire, pain & pleasure of trans* & queer folks; friends of queer & TIN folk are welcome to participate as long as they are mindful of the space they are moving through.

Accessibility

There is an elevator in the building, but a few steps to get into the building and into the event room. To use the elevator, an elevator door must be used. The elevator door is 0.70m wide and 2.00m high. The elevator itself is 0.60m deep and 0.98m wide.
If you have accessibility needs, please contact Mercy at mercystj@proton.me and we will do our best to accommodate your needs!

Corona

Please come tested for corona. There will be tests provided at the door for you if you are not able to access a test before arrival. Guests who test on-site are asked to wear masks until their test is negative.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution. The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

Dysphoria is the feeling of discomfort when the way people interact with you doesn’t match your gender identity. This feeling is often a source of distress & problems especially for TINA & genderqueer people, as well as some butches & dykes. Playing with gender identity is part of bdsm for many (e. G. Sissification) and kink always is a way to empower ourselves & resist society & it’s norms.

Therefore we want to open the space to talk about: how can we play with dysphoria, kinkyfy it, use it just as we use other „unpleasant“ feelings like fear, shame, etc. This is NOT about avoiding dysphoria but finding ways to use it, play with it, make it kinky, turn it around, as a way to empower ourselves. You don’t need experience with this kind of play but be curious about it & able to handle people talking about it (e. G. Discussions on deliberately misgendering someone during a session). We will also talk about navigating the risks, how to do this as safe as possible & special needs in aftercare. For all people who experience dysphoria and their play partners. If you don’t experience dysphoria yourself, please bring some basic knowledge about TINA identities & dysphoria. If you are not sure if you have this knowledge, you can reach out to us facilitators beforehand.

Slightlyintopain
(he/ him)

is a pain slut, masochist, trans man & loves to talk about kink as resistance, empowerment & political tool. He loves strong kink dynamics & use kink to make sth good out of (mental health) struggles.

Für wen

Diese Veranstaltung ist von und für kinky Queers. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Zugänglichkeit

Menschen haben unterschiedliche Bedürfnisse und Wünsche an Veranstaltungen und Räume. Bitte teil uns unter queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de mit was Du brauchst um an einer Veranstaltung teilzunehmen.

Im BDSM Studio Lux Kurszentrum gibt es einen Aufzug, der durch 4 Stufen im Erdgeschoss und im 3. Stock erreichbar ist. Eine Rampe gibt es leider keine.

Kosten

Während der gesamten queeren Veranstaltungsreihe stehen eine Politik der Zugänglichkeit, Transparenz und Umverteilung im Fokus.

Die Preise werden von den jeweiligen Kollektiven und Einzelpersonen kalkuliert und gehen zu 80 % in ihre Arbeit. Weitere 10% werden für die Werbung in Zeitschriften, Social Media und Printmedien verwendet und 10% entfallen für die organisierende Person.

Dieser Raum ist für kinky, queere, trans und nicht-binäre BIPoC, die ihre Körper, Lust und (Eintscheidungs-)Macht zurückholen möchten.

Es ist keine Playparty – und gleichzeitig viel mehr als ein Gesprächsraum.
Ein angeleiteter Workshop, in dem du in deinem Tempo erkunden, ausprobieren und spüren kannst, getragen von klaren Vereinbarungen und Consent.

Worum es geht

Wir reclaimen unsere Körper, unsere Lust und unsere Selbstbestimmung.
BDSM und Kink sind hier Werkzeuge, um zu spüren, was wir wirklich wollen, wo unsere Grenzen sind und wie wir Sicherheit in uns selbst verankern.

Gemeinsam beschäftigen wir uns mit:

Consent als verkörperte Praxis, nicht nur als Konzept
Sprache für Grenzen, Wünsche und klares Nein
Deiner persönlichen Landkarte & Orientierung für Lust, Grenzen und Begehren: Was fühlt sich echt an, was nicht
Macht- und Dynamikstrukturen im Kink verstehen und einordnen
Vorbereitung auf Play Spaces aus einer selbstbestimmten Position
Joy and pleasure need safety – Freude und Lust brauchen Sicherheit.

Praxis & Erfahrung

Neben Austausch und Reflexion gibt es die Möglichkeit:

• Consent-Übungen zu zweit oder kleinen Gruppen
• Berührung bewusst zu verhandeln und zu erleben
• Mit vorhandenen Toys in einem sicheren Rahmen in Kontakt zu kommen
• Low Stimulation Spaces zu nutzen, um dich zurückzuziehen oder langsamer zu gehen

Alles ist optional.

Du entscheidest jederzeit: beobachten, teilnehmen oder pausieren.

Was diesen Raum besonders macht

• Raum nehmen, wo er uns nicht gegeben wurde
• Körperlich präsent sein, sichtbar und geschützt
• klare Bedingungen und achtsame Begleitung
• traumasensible Haltung
• Fokus auf Selbstbestimmung, Consent und Sicherheit
• keine Erwartung, performen zu müssen
• Raum für Unsicherheiten, Fragen und langsames Herantasten

Für wen

Für kinky QTBIPoC, die:

• neugierig sind, aber sich (noch) unsicher fühlen
• erste Erfahrungen gesammelt haben und Lust auf mehr haben
• sich vor einer ersten Playparty orientieren möchten
• ihre eigene Sprache, Grenzen und Lust stärken wollen
• Community in einem bewussten, reclaimenden Rahmen erleben möchten

Keine Vorerfahrung notwendig.

Wichtige Hinweise

• keine Vorkenntnisse nötig
• Genitalien bleiben bedeckt
• Keine öffentlichen Spielszenen
• Alle Übungen basieren auf aktivem Consent
• Du kannst jederzeit aus Übungen aussteigen oder pausieren

Kleidung: Komm, wie Du magst.

Snack/ Getränke gibt es vor Ort (du kannst aber gerne was mitbringen)

Sprache: Deutsch

Warum dieser Raum

Viele kinky Räume sind nicht für uns gemacht.

Dieser Workshop ist ein Versuch, etwas anderes zu schaffen:
Einen Ort, an dem wir lernen, spüren und unsere Körper reclaimen können.
Ein Raum, der unsere Präsenz anerkennt, unsere Lust respektiert und unsere Macht sichtbar macht, ohne Druck, ohne Erwartungen, aber mit Klarheit, Care und radikaler Akzeptanz.

Mica
(keine Pronomen)

Hey, ich bin Mica (keine Pronomen), Black, mixed race, trans-nonbinary, tanze & lache gerne, liebe es zu reisen, bin human & dog Elternteil, 51 Jahre – und bringe meine eigenen Erfahrungen und Perspektiven mit in unseren gemeinsamen Raum.

Ich arbeite zu Sexualität, Körper und Gesundheit mit Fokus auf BIPoC  trans, inter und nicht binäre Lebensrealitäten. Traumasensibel, körperorientiert und nah an dem, was wirklich da ist.

Als Bodyworker begleite ich Menschen in ihren eigenen sexuellen Entdeckungen. Gleichzeitig bin ich selbst immer wieder neugierig unterwegs in den Themen Kink und Consent – nicht als Expert*in mit fertigen Antworten, sondern mittendrin im Erkunden.

Ich verstehe mich nicht als Aufklärperson, sondern als jemand, der gemeinsam mit anderen lernt, entdeckt und Räume hält, in denen Ausprobieren, Spüren und auch Unsicherheit Platz haben dürfen.

Wenn Du Fragen hast, mit mir vor dem Termin in Kontakt treten möchtest, kannst Du das gerne über rooted.bodywork auf instagram

@rooted.bodywork

Für wen

Diese Veranstaltung ist von und für kinky QTBIPoC. Wenn Du Dir unsicher bist, ob Du gemeint bist, melde Dich bitte.

Zugänglichkeit

Menschen haben unterschiedliche Bedürfnisse und Wünsche an Veranstaltungen und Räume. Bitte teil uns unter queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de mit was Du brauchst um an einer Veranstaltung teilzunehmen.

Im BDSM Studio Lux Kurszentrum gibt es einen Aufzug, der durch 4 Stufen im Erdgeschoss und im 3. Stock erreichbar ist. Eine Rampe gibt es leider keine.

Kosten

Während der gesamten queeren Veranstaltungsreihe stehen eine Politik der Zugänglichkeit, Transparenz und Umverteilung im Fokus.

Die Preise werden von den jeweiligen Kollektiven und Einzelpersonen kalkuliert und gehen zu 80 % in ihre Arbeit. Weitere 10% werden für die Werbung in Zeitschriften, Social Media und Printmedien verwendet, 10% gehen an die organisierende Person.

It’s that time of year again!

On the holiest of leather weekends, we gather to revel in and with each other. HOLY F//CK is a queer & trans-only play party in which desire is sacred, pleasure is ritual, pain is pious, and sin redefined on our own terms.

A night for those who understand that ecstasy is power & that subverting all the rules is its own kinda devotion. Whether you come to kneel, confess, commune, or transgress, our altar is abundant for those who dare worship at the temple of all things impudent, irreverent, & brazen.

Blessed be the deviant, defiant, & damned!

HOLY F//CK is for queer, TIN* & friends. Dress code: Ritualistic, sacrilege, occultisms. Perverse priests, unholy nuns, genderf//cked saints, fallen angels, leather-clad altar bois, ruinous dieties. You choose 😉

**No street clothes!**

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

For our immuno-compromised baddies, we ask that everyone please come COVID tested negative to the event. If you cannot test or do not have access to a COVID test, there will be a few tests provided at the door & masks.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.

Please contact Mercy at mercystj@proton.me if you cannot afford a ticket!