How to Sub: An Intro
Join us for this interactive and explorative day-long workshop where we will look inwards at our power-playing tendencies.
- Setting the scene; what can subbing be?
- Boundaries; what do I want more of?
- Negotiating together; finding the sweet spot
- Aftercare; taking care and looking after each other
During this workshop, we will use group discussion, paired activities, and self-reflection to explore all this topic has to offer.
We will examine different styles of submissionâfrom bratty and playful to devoted and loving. Together, we will discuss how these styles appear in our personal experiences, media representations, and storytelling.
As your facilitator, I will draw from my own personal and professional experiences in BDSM dynamics and relationships.
âIn BDSM, there is liberation in surrender, empowerment in submission.â â Unknown
We will take time to map different types of boundaries and explore when and how we express them. This includes recognizing situations where setting or maintaining boundaries feels more challenging. From there, we transition into negotiation techniques through simple but practical exercises within the group.
You will leave this workshop with a clearer understanding of your submissive side and tools to help you express yourself.
Is this workshop for me?
If you are newly exploring your relationship to submission, this workshop will help you understand the basics.Experienced subs can use this space to reflect on what elements of submission they have explored and wish to explore further.
As an experienced or beginner Dom, this workshop will also provide valuable insights into navigating power play in a fun and safe way.
Attending with your play partner(s) or a friend can help you apply the workshop content directly to your existing BDSM practice. Attending alone offers a focused space to reflect and design possible next steps in your submissive journey.
What to bring?
Bring your journal or notebook to take notes on your preferences and learnings throughout the workshop. To prepare for the workshop you might consider creating a mind map or some initial notes on your relationship to submission, your experiences and what you wish to get out of the workshop. Please bring anything that might increase your comfort over these hours: comfy socks, your plushie or your favourite tea. We will provide basic snacks and drinks for the workshop.
Your Workshop Facilitator:
Violet Beau is an activist, sex educator and sex worker specialising in playful and educational switch sessions. She has 8 years experience influencing policy around human rights. Violet is a compassionate workshop facilitator with a great talent for breaking down difficult topics. She delivers workshops with the aim of empowering people to open up their own voices and ask for what they want.
