BDSM Beyond Binary – Provide & Receive

The experience of providing intimate services and receiving them is an opportunity to explore what we’re willing to give, and what we want. This workshop is an intimate consent roleplay inspired by s*x work dynamics and Emilian’s experience as a s*x worker.

Emilian will guide you through this process, while offering knowledge and advice on playing with these concepts in a way that is respectful of sex worker’s experiences and struggles. This workshop is not an initiation to s*x work nor a glamorization of the work. It invites you to an experience based on the appreciation of s*x workers‘ knowledge, not on appropriation. This is why education on the topic is so important.

Emilian will provide tips about consent, and a lap dance demonstration. In this fun and intimate roleplay, you will have the experience of approaching others to offer them the services that you’re willing to provide, and being paid – not in actual money – but in compliments. You will also have the experience of having someone you don’t know coming to you to offer services, and choosing what you want to experience. Lap dances are on the menu, but also services like listening to someone, giving them a hug, or even a spank. No prior knowledge is required. You can participate even if you don’t feel like giving or receiving a lapdance. Come as you are, with the outfit and gender expression that make you feel good on that day!

Emilian

is a non-binary s*x worker, workshop facilitator, performer and writer. They facilitate regular Consent workshops and a peer support group for sex workers at Hydra Cafe. They strive to fight the stigma sex workers face through performances, story-telling, poetry, and lectures. As part of the Anti-Stigma Hydra’s campaign, they co-wrote the free zine „So You’re Dating A Sex Worker?“. They are part of Slut Riot, a group of Berlin-based sex workers who create performance art and shows. Slut Riot’s mission is to give a space to sex workers to take control over their own narratives and to find creative outlets to express their voices.

@emilianperforms
@slvtriot
emilianwalter.contact@gmail.com
slutriotberlin.com

Who can participate?

All events are by and for queers, trans*, genderfluids, genderqueers, non-binaries of all kinds. Self-definition applies. If you are unsure whether you are meant, please let us know.

Accessibility

People have different needs and wishes for events and rooms. Please let us know at queer@bdsm-studio-lux.de what you need to participate in an event.

In the BDSM Studio Lux course center there is an elevator accessible by 4 steps on the first floor and on the 3rd floor. There is no ramp.

Corona

Masks are compulsory at BDSM Studio Lux. Please come to the studio 15 minutes before the start of each event. Corona tests will be ready. Masks will only be removed once all participants have consensually and actively agreed. Masks must be worn in the corridors at all times.

Costs

Throughout the queer event series, the focus is on a policy of accessibility, transparency and redistribution.

The prices are calculated by the respective collectives and individuals and 90% of them go towards their work. A further 10% is used for advertising in magazines, social media and print media.